Do you wish you could be like the people who don’t seem to let anything bother them? How can someone manage to be so cool and calm in today’s stressed out world? What’s their secret?
Life is filled with a multitude of work and home obligations, errands to run and to-do lists that never seem to get done. Add that to dealing with family and coworkers that can be difficult to put it mildly. So it’s no wonder so many people suffer from stress related issues.
And yet, some people seem to be unaffected by it all. How do they do it?
Here are some simple strategies that you can follow to avoid the stress mode:
#1 – Be confident with who you are. It’s easy to get upset if someone criticizes or critiques you and your weak point is that you aren’t confident about yourself or your abilities. You take their words personally, which will likely leave you feeling hurt, angry or disappointed, and ready to fight.
However, if you’re comfortable in your own skin, it doesn’t matter what others think. Their opinion is irrelevant because the only one that matters is your own. So, when they give you their two cents about what they think about you, let it slide right off you instead of getting angry and upset. You know who you are, and who you’re not. What they think is none of your business. It is just their thought or opinion, it is NOT the truth.
#2 – Process things before you just react to them. When something happens and you are tempted to just react, stop yourself. Take time to process what you saw or heard. Try to RESPOND rather than react! It’s easy when you act impulsively to make the wrong move, creating a situation that is worse than it has to be.
Most situations don’t require immediate responses, so take the time to figure out what the appropriate response should be. Once you get past the immediate emotion, you’ll find a greater ability to be rational.
#3 – Don’t say “no” without considering your options. Sometimes when you’re spread too thin and someone asks you to do something, you don’t think about whether or not it would benefit you; you just jump to a “no” answer. However, if you take the time to figure out if it’s beneficial to you to say “yes”, you’ll be more likely to just go with the flow. Perhaps you can say I need a moment to think about it to benefit us both.
More strategies in the next blog post…